Balancing the power in dating relationships
They give away any kind of power they have in the relationship, which creates a power imbalance, with the needy person becoming subordinate to her (or his) partner.
Neediness does work in short term relationships and at the beginning of long relationships.
The longer the relationship goes on however, the more the power differential results in people become very careful not to do or say things that would make their partner upset.
Instead of focusing on loving their partner, they become focused on not upsetting their partner.
The idea that during relationship conflicts, women can be just as volatile, combative and aggressive as men—what researchers refer to as “gender symmetry”—is also gaining traction.
But appearances of gender equality can be deceiving.
People who are not needy would end a relationship if they felt like that. People who have a needy partner can do whatever they want because although needy people complain, they don't leave.
You're only 26, yet you've done so much -- three studio albums with a fourth on the way, tens of millions of You Tube hits and numerous awards.
Has the time flown, or does it feel like a long time since you first started out?
Most people think that love is a feeling, but I would strongly debate that point.
Actually, the concept of “like” is really about feelings.
They often feel like they have to "walk on eggshells" with their partners, which takes the joy out of the relationship.